Shame, Guilt, Booze, Masturbation: Me and My Catholic Priest
Posted: Tue Dec 11, 2012 10:07 am
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I have been struggling with the problem of compulsive masturbation since I was about 13. I started fueling this with pornography when I was about 18 after I obtained use of the internet at home. This is something I still struggle with. . . . . . .
I see [my priest] . . . maybe twice a week (he said to call him anytime I need to) to confess my failing in relation to the issue of impurity and he gives me absolution after a decent chat.
I am a little bit confused about the theological nature of his advice, though. He has advised that I should still frequent Communion if I should masturbate how ever many times and do not have time to see him beforehand, the rationale being that it is a compulsive habit. Something about this just doesn’t sit right with me (I used to get this advice a lot elsewhere). . . .
Now, we have been getting fairly close recently, such as by visiting one another at our homes. He tells me that he loves me very much which I feel is pretty genuine. Sometimes, we may hug each other after an emotionally-charged confession on my part. Now, this priest has a bit of a drinking issue. I feel hypocritical in saying this, but it’s a fact. I don’t have a lot of close friends at the moment, and I don’t think this particular priest has either. When it comes to sexuality, he also seems a little immature and ignorant which can be a little frustrating for someone in my position.
In short, I think we are becoming a little too close, and that we may be using confession as a way of making up for a lack of close friendships. I also question the theological integrity of his advice about impurity. I mean, my soul is at stake!
Suggestions for this poor guy?
"So I guess Six Flags ain't gonna happen, Father Tim?"
I have been struggling with the problem of compulsive masturbation since I was about 13. I started fueling this with pornography when I was about 18 after I obtained use of the internet at home. This is something I still struggle with. . . . . . .
I see [my priest] . . . maybe twice a week (he said to call him anytime I need to) to confess my failing in relation to the issue of impurity and he gives me absolution after a decent chat.
I am a little bit confused about the theological nature of his advice, though. He has advised that I should still frequent Communion if I should masturbate how ever many times and do not have time to see him beforehand, the rationale being that it is a compulsive habit. Something about this just doesn’t sit right with me (I used to get this advice a lot elsewhere). . . . Now, we have been getting fairly close recently, such as by visiting one another at our homes. He tells me that he loves me very much which I feel is pretty genuine. Sometimes, we may hug each other after an emotionally-charged confession on my part. Now, this priest has a bit of a drinking issue. I feel hypocritical in saying this, but it’s a fact. I don’t have a lot of close friends at the moment, and I don’t think this particular priest has either. When it comes to sexuality, he also seems a little immature and ignorant which can be a little frustrating for someone in my position.
In short, I think we are becoming a little too close, and that we may be using confession as a way of making up for a lack of close friendships. I also question the theological integrity of his advice about impurity. I mean, my soul is at stake!
Suggestions for this poor guy?
"So I guess Six Flags ain't gonna happen, Father Tim?"
